Words Taste Like Peaches
Don’t get me wrong. If I had the body of a model, I’d wear the fuck out of most of her clothes. And I’d wear some of the designs that would work on a curvy girl too.
But the girl makes the same fucking outfits every week. And fuck me if that dress this week had nothing to do with Chile or the flag. At all. That dress had as much to do with Chile as the pink princess pajama bottoms I am currently wearing.
It’s not that she’s bad, she’s just not innovative at all and I have friends who could make the same dresses in their living room and they don’t call themselves designers.
The only “death” so to speak is that one character had a miscarriage, but it’s not a happy film. Lotsa talk of depression and bullying etc.
DAMNIT.
WHY ARE SO MANY BLEAK AS FUCK MOVIES OUT AROUND THE HOLIDAYS?
gmwrar | trappedinamatchbox | findinggaby | gmwrar | sassyyetsimple:
Unpopular opinion (apparently) - IT IS OKAY FOR HER TO ASK FOR MEDS. In case you missed it, her therapist responds by saying that medication CAN help. I’m thinking (hoping) that the fan responses saying things like “oh it kills me that she’s asking for meds” or “she just wants to be numb” are more in response to her follow up comment that she wants “something to take the edge off” but seriously, guys… PTSD is real, it *can* require medication, it doesn’t just go away because you want it to, and for those saying things (possibly jokingly) about Castle curing her - sadly, it doesn’t work that way either. I’m sure that knowing he will be there for her through of all this will be comforting to her as she deals with this, but there are no shortcuts through it. Needing and asking for help, specifically in this case - in the form of medication, does not make Kate Beckett weak or pitiful. It makes her a strong human being who is stuck dealing with issues she didn’t ask for and wishes would just disappear. I’m sure nobody meant any harm by their comments, but mental health is a serious issue. Every comment that puts KB asking for meds in a negative light could be potentially destructive for someone taking meds for mental health reasons OR for someone who feels like they may need psychiatric help but feels that it comes with a negative stigma. Asking for help is ALWAYS the right thing to do if you are feeling stressed, overwhelmed, depressed, panicked, or in any other way like you can’t handle something you are going through.
^ THIS. Seriously. ALL OF THIS. I am in no way personally attacking anyone for their comments, but I feel that this is an important message that needs to be read.
Oh I’m so glad someone posted about this because I wrote a post this afternoon but then got anxious and shaky about it and baleted because this is very personal to me. Let me just say this I do not take my medication to numb my pain because it doesn’t do that. All those feelings are still there, the medication just makes me less of a zombie version of myself, less of an over-reacting oh my god I cannot stop twitching version of myself, less of panicking at everything can’t leave the house version of myself so that I can deal with the pain.
And it is completely normal to want a quick fix. When you get to that point, the point where you actually realise oh my god I cannot do this anymore because you’re exhausted and you feel sick, like almost physically nauseous and it just needs to come out of you (it really is like throwing up, you feel better afterwards), of course you just want it to go away. Being told that there is no quick fix? That getting out of that place is going to take hard work? That maybe there isn’t a fix? Maybe you’ll just have to adapt and carry it with you for the rest of your life? That’s hard. Especially when you have a job and a life to get back to.
It’s exactly the same as when you have a cold: you just want to feel better.
Just because you can’t see it, you don’t have a fever, doesn’t mean you’re not sick and it doesn’t mean you don’t need medication. Some of the posts I have seen about this have made me feel … like I said, shaking.
As for Castle ‘curing’ her - having a support network is important, not being alone is important. It is a part of getting better. (I can tell you, I would probably not be alive if it wasn’t for my partner. Because I know that I can call him when I’m sitting there thinking about slitting my wrists or when I get into my car and have the distinct urge to drive it into a pole at 100 km an hour.) But love is not a band-aid and it can’t be. It can’t be the pills. It can’t be the crutch, because sooner or later it won’t be enough and it’s not a healthy kind of love. It’s needing. It’s using someone else and sucking them dry to patch over the void inside of you.
I think the fact that Beckett pushed Castle away, that she’s asked him to wait is all a testament to just how much she loves him, just how much she wants to be a person who can be in a healthy relationship, a partnership. And I love her for that, I really do.
Here is the crux of all of this:
Ask for the help you need. Beckett did. And I am so, so in love with her this season for that. She might not be there yet, but she took the first step: she asked for help. Don’t suffer through an illness that can be treated like any other out of pride or fear or misery. It doesn’t just get better, you make it better. We all save ourselves. And you can. But maybe not alone.
all of this.
Just throwing my two cents here. The fact that she KNOWS she needs help by going to a therapist is possibly one of the greatest most real moments on tv I’ve ever seen, and I’m thankful to the writers for doing that and amazing by just how an incredible job Stana does portraying that.
There are moments in our lives where we just can’t handle whatever it may be, and having her ask for help, and work through these issues with help… I can’t say thank you enough.
All of this.
Re-reblogging for important commentary and because I’m so glad to see that all the commentary above is receiving support throughout the fandom.
SPOILERS FOR DH2
Voldemort hugs Draco - extended cut
(Source: formerlyleighway, via formerlythequietworld)
